CHARACTER TRAITS

Expressing thanks to God and others for the ways they have served me.

In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 NASB

Demonstrating that the person is deserving by giving genuine courtesy and consideration to God's Word or a person's words

For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we

drift away from it.

Hebrews 2:1 NASB

Scheduling my priorities to fit the desires of others.

And as Jesus passed on from there, He saw a man, called Matthew, sitting in the

tax office; and He said to him, "Follow Me!" And he rose, and followed Him.

Matthew 9:9 NASB

Giving the control of my life to the Lord

Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He will do it.

Psalm 37:5 NASB

Giving whatever is necessary to meet another's needs without expecting anything in return

To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted,

and humble in spirit;

1 Peter 3:8 NASB

Bearing another's burdens with great affection and admiration

Bear one another's burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.

Galatians 6:2 NASB

Scheduling my priorities to fit the desires of others.

I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Philippians 4:13 NASB

Thoughtful of others and of their feelings

Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the

interests of others.

Philippians 2:4 NASB

Not wavering from God's principles

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding

in the work of the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord.

1 Corinthians 15:58 NASB

Understanding and accepting that God has provided everything I need for adjusting to circumstances around me.

Not that I speak from want; for I have learned to be content in whatever

circumstances I am.

Philippians 4:11 NASB

Working or dwelling in unity with others

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is For brothers to dwell together in unity!

Psalm 133:1 NASB

Demonstrating that God is with me, giving strength and firmness of character, enabling me to endure any trial or danger

"Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the

Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or

forsake you."

Deuteronomy 31:6 NASB

Meeting a need or a chore from a different point of view

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of

your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good

and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 12:2 NASB

Making all decisions based on the perfect will of God

"And if it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the Lord, choose for

yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers

served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land

you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."

Joshua 24:15 NASB

Controlling my privileges and preferences in order not to offend those God has called me to serve (putting their wishes or opinions before mine.)

Just as I also please all men in all things, not seeking my own profit,

but the profit of the many, that they may be saved.

1 Corinthians 10:33 NASB

Being worthy of trust by doing what I said I would do even if it means self-denial

O Timothy, guard what has been entrusted to you, avoiding worldly and empty

chatter and the opposing arguments of what Is falsely called "knowledge"

1 Timothy 6:20 NASB

Purposing to accomplish God's best regardless of the opposition

For I determined to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ,

and Him crucified.

1 Corinthians 2:2 NASB

Seeing a chore (work) as a special assignment from the Lord and doing everything to complete it

Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men;

Colossians 3:23 NASB

Having the insight and sympathetic understanding into a difficult situation and being able to make an accurate judgment

"Moreover, they shall teach My people the difference between the holy and

the profane, and cause them to discern between the unclean and the clean.

Ezekiel 44:23 NASB

Forming sound opinions and giving serious attention and thought to what one is doing especially to details.

It is well with the man who is gracious and lends; He will maintain his cause

in judgment.

Psalm 112:5 NASB

Accomplishing the greatest productivity by preparing myself and my environment

Making the most of your time, because the days are evil.

Ephesians 5:16 NASB

Showing justice and impartiality to persons and programs according to God's law

To receive instruction in wise behavior, Righteousness, justice and equity;

Proverbs 1:3 NASB

Seeing a situation from the viewpoint of each person involved

"Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for

this is the Law and the Prophets.

Matthew 7:12 NASB

Manifesting a true spirit to a person to whom one is bound by a promise, a pledge, honor, or love

In this case, moreover, it is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy.

1 Corinthians 4:2 NASB

Facing danger with a spirit of determination, for God gives us the spirit of power

For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.

2 Timothy 1:7 NASB

Surrendering or yielding affections to God, not to earthly things that can be changed by others

Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint

against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

Colossians 3:13 NASB

Overlooking another's faults by means of expressing to him Christ's love (responding as if there were no faults)

Bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint

against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

Colossians 3:13 NASB

Extending my life to a friendship by receiving a person with the attitude: What is god doing in his life? How can I help?

A man of many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer

than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 NASB

Using all I have to glorify God because it all belongs to Him

"In everything I showed you that by working hard in this manner you must

help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said,

'It is more blessed to give than to receive.'"

Acts 20:35 NASB

Responding tender-heartedly to the needs of others

And the Lord's bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all,

able to teach, patient when wronged,

2 Timothy 2:24 NASB

Dealing righteously, showing what is right and proper to the Lord and others

For we have regard for what is honorable, not only in the sight of the Lord,

but also in the sight of men.

2 Corinthians 8:21 NASB

Recognizing my weakness and showing awareness, as a little child, that God and others are responsible for the accomplishments in my life

You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe

yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud,

but gives grace to the humble. Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty

hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time,

1 Peter 5:5-6 NASB

Speaking to myself in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in my heart to the LORD as a result of being in agreement with God and others (shows on the face)

Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and

making melody with your heart to the Lord;

Ephesians 5:19 NASB

Showing a genuine, harmonious attitude toward others

And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other,

just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

Ephesians 4:32 NASB

Confirming my commitment to a person or cause in time of adversity

"Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for

his friends.

John 15:13 NASB

Yielding everything to God including the results and thoughts for self

Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior

his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom.

James 3:13 NASB

Having, feeling, and showing more kindness than justice requires

"Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

Luke 6:36 NASB

Foreseeing and responding correctly and alertly to any situation

"Keep watching and praying, that you may not come into temptation;

the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak."

Mark 14:38 NASB

Meditating upon the most hopeful aspects of any situation

But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.

Romans 8:25 NASB

Accepting a difficult situation with calm endurance without complaining or losing self-control

Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us,

let us also lay aside every encumbrance, and the sin which so easily entangles

us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,

Hebrews 12:1 NASB

Yielding self to the LORD for His control, for "He is our peace" (the inner quietness, freedom from disturbance of strife, absence of excitement or confusion)

"These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the

world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world."

John 16:33 NASB

Withstanding stress (the attacks of time and circumstance) to accomplish God's best

And let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap

if we do not grow weary.

Galatians 6:9 NASB

Motivating and directing others to see issues from God's point of view

With gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may

grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth,

2 Timothy2:25 NASB

Seeing what is likely to happen and giving careful thought in acting and planning

The naive believes everything, But the prudent man considers his steps.

Proverbs 14:15 NASB

Showing respect for God's timing as well as other people's time by being on time or quick to act when a request is made

There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every

event under heaven--

Ecclesiastes 3:1 NASB

Resolving to accomplish a long-range goal and allowing this goal to determine my daily progress

How blessed are those who observe His testimonies, Who seek Him with all

their heart.

Psalm 119:2 NASB

Capable and ready to undertake projects that would overlook or discard

And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own

business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you;

1 Thessalonians 4:11 NASB

A feeling of deep respect and honor mixed with wonder, awe, and love for the person that God is using in my life to produce the character of Christ in me

But we request of you, brethren, that you appreciate those who diligently

labor among you, and have charge over you in the Lord and give you instruction,

and that you esteem them very highly in love because of their work.

Live in peace with one another.

1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 NASB

Knowing and doing what is expected of me without superior authority; trustworthy; dependable; reliable; accountable

So then each one of us shall give account of himself to God.

Romans 14:12 NASB

Building my every day life on eternal things which cannot fail or be lost

"Then you would trust, because there is hope; And you would look

around and rest securely.

Job 11:18 NASB

Ruling my own spirit; instant obedience to the Holy Spirit

Abstain from all appearance of evil

1 Thessalonians 5:22 NASB

Desiring to do what is right with pure motives

"Now, therefore, fear the Lord and serve Him in sincerity and truth;

and put away the gods which your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt,

and serve the Lord.

Joshua 24:14 NASB

An inward attitude of yielding to the authority of another

Obey your leaders, and submit to them; for they keep watch over your souls,

as those who will give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with grief,

for this would be unprofitable for you.

Hebrews 13:17 NASB

Saying and doing the right things (discreet) to avoid undesirable consequences in dealing with people

Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned, as it were, with salt,

so that you may know how you should respond to each person.

Colossians 4:6 NASB

Not being extreme in anyway, especially with regard to appetites

Instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly,

righteously and godly in the present age,

Titus 2:12 NASB

Graditude for actions or gifts God or people have accomplished or given

And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus,

giving thanks through Him to God the Father.

Colossians 3:17 NASB

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with

thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

Philippians 4:6 NASB

Knowing what will reduce the effectiveness of my work if neglected by doing all that should be done to complete it

Whatever your hand finds to do, verily, do it with all your might; for there

is no activity or planning or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol where you are going.

Ecclesiastes 9:10 NASB

The prudent managing of resources, work, and the regular putting aside of savings

Behold, My servant will prosper, He will be high and lifted up, and greatly exalted.

Isaiah 52:13 NASB

There is precious treasure and oil in the dwelling of the wise,

But a foolish man swallows it up.

Proverbs 21:20 NASB

Accepting others and willing to endure their beliefs and actions with which I do not agree

Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this--

not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way.

Romans 14:13 NASB

Earned trust by accurately stating all known information

Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth, each one of you,

with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.

Ephesians 4:25 NASB

Conforming to and radiating God's moral principles of purity

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right,

whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute,

if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise,

let your mind dwell on these things.

Philippians 4:8 NASB

DISCERNING POSITIVE QUALITIES THROUGH NEGATIVE TRAITS

1979 Institute of Basic Youth Conflict--Bill Gothard

Every negative trait is a positive quality misused. A person who is careless with money is misusing the quality of generosity. A person who is critical and judgmental is misusing the quality of discernment. here is a further list of misuses.

01. Alertness: Jumpiness; quick criticism, presumptuous; inquisitiveness
02. Amiability: gullible; status-seeking; socially preoccupied; spineless
03. Analytical: Pickiness; pettiness; over-attention to detail
04. Aspiration: Selfish competition; vain ambition; scheming
05. Compassion: Gushy sentimentalism; undiscerning empathy; taking up offenses
06. Confidence: Conceited; cocky overbearing
07. Cooperativeness: Compromising; conniving; lacking initiative
08. Courage: Recklessness; brashness; brazenness
09. Courtesy: Self-consciousness; social stiffness; superficial flattery
10. Creativity: Mischievous; crafty; day-dreaming; devious
11. Decisiveness: Inflexibility; ruthlessness; dominance

12. Diligence: Slavishness; one-track mindedness; selfishly industrious
13. Discernment: Snoopiness; judgmental; critical; fault-finding
14. Discipline: Rigidness; harshness; overbearing; tyrannical
15. Discretion: Over-cautiousness; secretiveness; timidness; undue carefulness
16. Earnestness: Nervous Meticulousness; over-conscientiousness; over-serious
17. Efficiency: Perfectionism; fussiness; rigidness; impatience
18. Enthusiasm: Fanatical; over-bearing; over-wrought; aggressive
19. Expressiveness: Wordy; glib; vociferous; melodramatic
20. Fairmindedness: Indecisive; indiscriminate; undiscerning
21. Flexibility: Wishy-washiness; indecisiveness; spinelessness
22. Forgiveness: Irresponsible leniency; permissiveness; irresponsibility; weakness

23. Frankness: Tackless; insensitive; undiplomatic; disrespectful
24. Frugality: Stingy; miserly; penny-pinching
25. Extravagance; spend-thriftiness; wastefulness; squandering
26. Gratefulness: Flattery; gushiness; extravagant; generosity
27. Honestly: Outspokenness; bluntness; brutality; indiscretion
28. Hospitality: Ingratiating; social climbing; cliquish
29. Humility: Self-abasement; extreme self-criticism; lack of self-confidence
30. Loyalty: Possessiveness; idol worship; blind obedience; undue attachment
31. Neatness: Perfectionism; over meticulousness; intolerance; stiffness
32. Objectivity: Insensitivity; cold calculation; unloving
33. Patience: Indifferent; permissive; disinterested

34. Persistence: Stubbornness; flexibility; self-willed; headstrong
35. Persuasiveness: Smooth talking; high pressure tactics; pushiness
36. Punctuality: Intolerance; impatience with tardiness
37. Purposefulness: Single-mindedness; intolerance; inflexibility
38. Respectfulness: Idol worship; debilitating subservience
39. Resoluteness: Hardheadedness; closed mindedness; stubbornness
40. Resourcefulness: Over-independence; manipulating; scheming calculation
41. Sensitivity: Touchiness; easily offended; emotional
42. Sincerely: Gullibility; over seriousness; impulsiveness

IDENTIFYING POSITIVE QUALITIES

1979 Institute of Basic Youth Conflict--Bill Gothard

One of the most important purposes of a friendship is to assist one another in developing Christ-like character qualities. In order to do this we must be able to know and distinguish between specific qualities.